When I was in elementary school, our music/art teacher one day had a book of names with the meaning behind every name. I was fascinated and excited, just as all of us were. Erin means Ireland, how sweet. Jessica means God’s grace (though there are other meanings according to Wikipedia and other sources but anyway…). Then my name… “Mary means… sea of bitterness.” Wow, what a stupid name! I’m so mad! And thus, proving the meaning behind my name. That moment, and meaning, has never left me, unfortunately.
I am a very outgoing person. But by outgoing I mean, I love being around people. I really need to be around people to thrive, to live, to do most things. Even if I’m starving, I won’t go out to get food. I have no motivation to do it. I mean, I’m not the skinniest person, I already have a bad relationship with food so I’m not gonna run to go eat it. And even in the U.S., I got very lonely and would call people or text people to hang out but they would be busy and couldn’t come hang out with me. And I kept myself busy by watching TV or watching Youtube videos. I also worked a ton so it helped that I didn’t have too too much time to hang around or if I did, I was too tired to go out so I would stay home. But also, my friends would invite me to hang out. They would message me randomly to talk about strange things or invite me to hang out. How nice it was of them! I really miss my friends from home because of that. Our relationship was so much fun. We would talk about really stupid and crazy things. Or about life and advice. It was some really good conversations and times hanging out.
Now that I’m in Korea, my relationship with my friends here is really different. It’s nothing like the ones I had at home. I have friends, but something feels slightly amiss. We don’t really have deep conversations. We don’t talk about much. We just shop or drink or eat. Nothing else really. As far as initiating a hangout, it’s usually me. I’m usually the first one to call/text/make the plan. Then my friends will usually cancel later, but not reschedule. It’s happened so frequently over my time here that it is starting to be expected anymore. I’m surprised I ever get to hang out with people. But because of this, I don’t trust anything anyone says anymore.
My friend wanted to cancel our plans t